Moms Council: Baby Shower Etiquette
Local moms discuss when its appropriate to have a party for a friend's new addition.
Hello and welcome to this week's Fredericksburg Patch Moms Council, an online forum of ordinary mothers just trying their best to raise their children. The Moms Council will take your questions, share advice and offer solutions every Wednesday at 1 p.m. Today's discussion is baby shower etiquette.
I must be at the age when my friends are having another baby because it seems I am always being invited to someone's baby shower. While I am happy and excited for my friends, I want to ask: when is it appropriate to have a baby shower for a second child? If you don't attend the shower, should you send a gift or can a gift be given after the child is born?
I can understand having a shower for a mom who is starting over. Her children are older and she may not have any baby gear or what she has could be outdated due to safety standards. But what about the mom who is expecting a child of the opposite sex of her first and doesn't necessarily need the big stuff but would appreciate some diapers, wipes and cute clothes? Then there is the mom who has a two year old and is expecting a child of the same sex but the seasons don't match up. I guess my question is, where do you draw the line of hosting a shower for your friends?
I like to party just as much as the next girl but when is enough, enough? Just because you did it for one friend, does that mean you have to do it for every prego friend? Is throwing a shower just another excuse to get together with your girlfriends and eat?
Join the discussion -- we want to hear from you! Share with us in the comment area your reasons for throwing a baby shower for a friend. I want to hear your opinion on the matter. What would Miss Manners say? For more information about the format, and an introduction to our Mom's Council, read our intro post here.